
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full... more
| Publishes | Weekly | Episodes | 237 | Founded | 5 years ago |
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| Number of Listeners | Categories | SexualityHealth & Fitness | |||

Having more sex isn’t actually about libido.
(We know — that’s what everyone thinks the issue is.)
In today’s episode, we’re breaking down what really gets in the way of wanting sex more often — and what you can do about it that doesn’t feel forced... more
It’s the season of gratitude, family time… and figuring out how to have sex quietly. 😅
This Thanksgiving, we’re throwing it back to one of our most iconic early episodes — all about having sex when other people are around. Whether you’re hosting th... more
What if the biggest barrier to intimacy in your relationship isn’t stress, exhaustion, or mismatched libidos… but your phone?
In this week’s episode, we’re trying something that might feel a little controversial (and honestly, uncomfortable): no scr... more
This week we’re bringing back one of our favorite games, Tie-Breakers!
You sent in the recurring arguments that pop up again and again in your relationship — the ones that never seem to die no matter how many times you talk about them — and now we’r... more
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I heard Vanessa on Shawn Ryan and her episode was really informative. I decided to try this podcast to follow up. The content is super interesting, it just takes forever to pry it out of them over the giggles and the ads. They’re using most of the episode to sell their book/cards or read sponsored ads. They’ll start an interesting topic, go off on a tangent, laugh about that forever, and finally get back to the actual material after you’ve tuned out or forgotten what they were talking about to b... more
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I found Vanessa and Xander on instagram and have been OBSESSED with their podcast ever since! I listen daily on my hour commute to and from work- it makes the drive go by so quickly and makes me laugh out loud regularly! Each episode starts up amazing conversations for me and my boyfriend, hands down my favorite podcast.
A personal bonus- Vanessa has inspired me to go back to school- for what you might ask? Relationship therapy!
Keep the laughs and best couples advice coming!
I love so much about your podcast! I enjoy the honest advice and realness of it. I just wish Vanessa would stop picking on Xander. She’s pretty hard on him and it sounds like he knows how to manage it, but it hurts my heart a little every time I hear her be critical toward him (and she does it at least once per episode).
An example is the latest episode about phone usage where she said “well… you’re still not really good about time management”.
It felt like a passive aggressive dig when he was... more
I’m so grateful that I stumbled across Vanessa and Xanders instagram which then led me to their podcast. I have learned so much and my relationship has benefited greatly. I listen to old episodes all the time and new episodes as they come out. Every episode if full of great, insightful and practical information and
I’m so appreciative for it. Thank you Vanessa and Xander for what you do and please keep up the good work! I know you are helping thousands of couples out there.
My husband loves Shawn Ryan, podcasts and sending them to me! 🤣 Most of the time I start them but dont usually finish because I get easily distracted. He wrote "I'm only 15 minutes in but so far she's made some good points". He wasn't lying because I got hooked within 5 minutes! The episode with Vanessa Marin from Pillow talks is hands down amazing and so informative!
Holy moly did I feel called out so many times but in the best way possible. We have been together over 20 years and you really... more
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Engaging and light-hearted, this audio experience offers insightful discussions on sexuality and relationships through the engaging dynamic of two hosts: a knowledgeable sex therapist and her relatable partner. Each episode tackles a variety of topics ranging from intimacy and communication to the nuances of sexual experiences, while aiming to dispel myths and promote open discussions about sex. Listeners can expect practical tips and relatable anecdotes that de-stigmatize common sexual concerns, making complex subjects accessible and engaging. The use of humor and personal narratives is a defining feature, aiming to create a comfortable space for listeners to reflect on their own lives and relationships around intimacy.
The podcast is esp... more
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